5 Steps to Restart Your Routines After a Setback: A Guide for Students and Young Adults

 
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Life can often throw obstacles in the way of even the best-laid plans. Whether it's a personal setback, lack of motivation, or unexpected events that disrupt your daily routine, getting back on track can feel overwhelming. Fortunately, there are practical steps you can take to restart your routines with confidence and maintain a sense of stability. These strategies are particularly beneficial for students, young adults, and anyone looking to improve their executive function, productivity, and mental well-being.

In this article, we’ll guide you through five key steps that will help you restart and maintain your routines effectively. These actionable tips will support your mental health and life skills as you regain structure and stay on track.

1. Reflect on the Setback Without Judgment

Understand What Went Wrong

When your routine falls apart, it's easy to fall into the trap of self-criticism. However, this can cause anxiety and make it even harder to get back on track. Instead, take a moment to reflect on the setback in a non-judgmental way. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • What external or internal factors contributed to the disruption?

  • Were there any unforeseen obstacles that prevented me from sticking to my routine?

  • What lessons can I learn from this experience to avoid future setbacks?

Focus on Growth, Not Perfection

Remember, no one is perfect, and every setback is an opportunity for growth. This reflection process helps you identify patterns and make changes that will prevent future challenges, while also fostering self-compassion. By focusing on solutions rather than dwelling on what went wrong, you’re creating the mindset needed for success in the future.

2. Start Small and Build Gradually

Avoid Overwhelm by Breaking It Down

After a routine interruption, it might be tempting to jump right back into everything at once. However, this can lead to burnout and frustration. Instead, start with small, manageable steps. Begin by reintroducing one habit at a time, focusing on consistency rather than intensity.

For example:

  • Start with a 10-minute walk rather than committing to a 30-minute exercise session.

  • Focus on one productive task each day rather than tackling a full to-do list.

Increase Your Effort Gradually

As you build consistency with smaller actions, you can gradually increase the complexity and duration of your tasks. This approach ensures you stay motivated without feeling overwhelmed.

3. Set Clear and Realistic Goals

Define What You Want to Achieve

To successfully restart a routine, it’s essential to set clear, realistic, and specific goals. Ask yourself what you aim to achieve with your routine and create SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) goals. This will provide a clear sense of direction and help you measure progress over time.

For instance:

  • Instead of a vague goal like "Get fit," try setting a goal like "I will exercise for 20 minutes three times a week."

  • Instead of "Be more productive," aim for specific tasks like "Complete my work project by Friday."

Stay Flexible and Adapt

Life is unpredictable, so make sure your goals are adaptable. Flexibility allows you to adjust when necessary without feeling discouraged. Adjust your goals as circumstances change, and always keep the bigger picture in mind.

4. Create a Structured Plan for Consistency

Plan Ahead for Success

Structure is key to maintaining any routine. To restart your routine, create a structured plan that includes specific times for each activity. Set aside dedicated time for each task and build a consistent schedule around it. Tools such as digital planners, calendars, or habit-tracking apps can help you stay organized and accountable.

Here are some tips for creating a solid plan:

  • Use time-blocking to assign specific hours for tasks like exercise, work, and personal activities.

  • Set reminders for key tasks to avoid forgetting important commitments.

  • Be realistic about how much time each task will take and make sure your plan includes time for self-care and rest.

Keep Your Environment Organized

A clutter-free environment helps reduce distractions and allows you to focus better. Tidy up your workspace or living areas to create a calming environment where you can focus on re-establishing your routine.

5. Seek Support and Accountability

Share Your Goals With Others

Having an accountability partner is one of the most effective ways to stay motivated. Share your goals with a trusted friend, family member, or colleague who can check in with you regularly. This mutual support can boost your confidence and make your journey more enjoyable.

Join a Routine Buddy System

Consider finding a "routine buddy" who is also working on similar goals. Whether it’s a study group, fitness buddy, or a fellow parent trying to implement healthy habits, having someone to share the experience with makes it easier to stay accountable and motivated.

Bonus Tip: Be Kind to Yourself

Practice Self-Compassion and Patience

Starting or restarting routines can be challenging, and setbacks are normal. Be kind to yourself during the process. Instead of focusing on past failures, shift your focus to the progress you are making. Celebrate small wins and practice positive affirmations to keep yourself motivated.

Remember, every small step forward counts, and it’s perfectly okay to stumble along the way. The key is to keep trying and stay committed to your goals.

Moving Forward with Confidence

By implementing these five actionable steps—reflecting without judgment, starting small, setting clear goals, creating a structured plan, and seeking support—you can successfully restart your routines and build a foundation for long-term success. With time and practice, these strategies will help you improve your executive function, productivity, and mental well-being. Embrace the process, and don’t forget to be kind to yourself along the way.

Start today, take small steps, and remember: progress is always better than perfection!

For more tips on time management, organization, and more core executive function skills, browse our website or contact us to learn more about our executive function coaching services!

Rachel Gryniewicz, MA, MATL

Rachel brings over a decade of experience in instructional coaching, curriculum development, and the design and implementation of student focused workshops and programs. She specializes in working with students in the areas of organization, time management, study strategies, and other crucial executive function skills. Her interests in developing leadership and advocacy skills in adolescents enrich her coaching sessions empowering her clients to be more assertive and confident. As a former high school teacher and college lecturer, Rachel understands the skills required to be successful at both levels and helps students prepare for their transition to college, including teaching and reinforcing strategies around planning ahead and breaking down large tasks. Rachel has also curated several professional development opportunities for educators centered on Executive Function skills such as resiliency and flexible thinking. 

A member of the Life Solved team since 2017, Rachel has recently entered a full-time position coordinating the client onboarding experience and ensuring a successful coaching engagement for coach and client. She continues to work with students of different ages and backgrounds as well as adult clients. Her positive energy and passion for helping others find success is evident in the work she does with her clients.

Rachel has a Masters in Teacher Leadership from Mount Holyoke College as well as a  Masters in Classics from the University of Maryland, College Park.  She also holds a Bachelor of Arts in Classics and Art History from Mount Holyoke College.

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